Wednesday, September 22, 2010

LESBIANISM AND GAYISM..IS IT WORTH IT?

SUNKANMI ­-- OGUNADE


THE ‘ISM’ CRAZE. (LESBIANS AND GAYS)
According to the Wikipedia search, it defines lesbianism as the quality or state of intense emotional and usually erotic attraction of a woman to another woman.
Sexual interest in and attraction, to members of one's own sex. The term gay is frequently used as a synonym for homosexual; female homosexuality is often referred to as lesbianism. As it was first used in the late 16th century, the word lesbian was the capitalized adjectival term referring to the Greek island of Lesbos. Its connotation of “female homosexuality” was added in the late 19th century, when an association was made with the tender and often passionate poetry written by Lesbian poet Sappho to and about other women in her female coterie.
Just as heterosexual orientation produces a great variety of behaviours, lesbianism presents no unified face. Some lesbians hide or deny their orientation, marrying in order to be accepted by their families and communities. Others often in the relative anonymity of an urban setting prefer to live openly as lesbians, sometimes bearing and rearing children.
Broadly speaking, in Europe and North America, many of the issues faced by lesbians at the turn of the 21st century were not radically different from those that concerned either heterosexual women or many gay men. Like heterosexual women, lesbians are affected by such issues as equal pay or the historical exclusion of women from medical research studies, the latter of which has led to a lack of understanding about the effect of lesbian sexuality on women's health.  Like many gay men, many lesbians in long-term relationships regret the lack of legal recognition for same sex unions. Other issues of concern to lesbians include child rearing (ranging from the inability to adopt a partner's offspring to laws barring same-sex adoption the sharing of medical health benefits with a partner, the right to make health decisions for a partner.
The issue of gayism in our environment is practically on the increase as it has grown beyond the control of a mortal man. To Africans, it is a taboo for a woman to engage in sexual activities involving another woman. The African heritage does not support such and as natural Africans, we tend to retreat against the wrong act which some countries as legalised. As a matter of fact, it has grown beyond bounds and most weak individuals in our own part of the world have been lured into the wrong act in one way or the other.
Picking the particular subject matter from different perspectives such as the parents, spiritual and the rest of them, we would discover that different people term it different things.
 Speaking to Mr. Tunde Samuel who is an engineer and also a family man who has two of his kids in the higher institution of learning, he said ‘it’s crazy, I cannot believe that some of our youths have been influenced and now believe in the term Gayism or the lesbianism thing, why would a normal person develop sexual feelings for the same sex person? I cannot just think about it, the devil has decided to take over the world in a strange way, it’s not right even if you look at it from any km perception it should not be supported at all, why would you be lip locking with your same sex? When we were growing up, things like this were not called for. It is wrong and I must say that, there should be a rule guarding against that, if you find anybody doing such, the person should be jailed for a long time. That’s it. Looking at what he said, our cultural heritage does not support the act in any way.
Speaking to another character, john by name who is a student in one of these institutions, he had this to say, wetin dey worry you? Why you go dey ask me that kin question? I am gay, what is wrong with that? I don’t do the girls thingy all the time abeg. I fuck both, I prefer sleeping with the boys, its fun and you are also good looking, I must confess, I would not mind having your ass for the night. (Laughs out loud) There is nothing wrong with it, all this girls have different diseases and spiritual problems, with the cute boys, you have no problem, look at it yourself, I hear cey you be press, if I find my talk for paper, I go treat your fuck up o. 
It obvious that Mr John believes so much in it, it was a funny and scary interview for me, I had to ask sharp questions and leave the venue, I refused to accept the drink he gave me, I was scared. He actually looked like a girl even when he was guy. The gayism thing has many strings attached to it; some will tell you they do it for the money, for the adventure or just for the fun involved. Some persons will visit a studio to take snap shots of their nakedness and paste it on different sites to attract different gays/lesbians from different continents of the world. It’s odd and ethically wrong, the traditions and lay down norms of the African religion and believe does not support the act.
Shedding more light on the subject matter is Miss Ronke Adebayo, she said, it’s very wrong and I think the  main reason why some girls do it is simply because, they don’t get sexual satisfaction from their fellow partners. They endeavour to acquire sexual satisfaction by involving themselves in the act. They sometimes make use of sex toys which is activated by their same sex mate. This is very different from the man power effect; they continue to use the material until they reach the climax. Some girls think it is right to get involved in lesbianism because, they still get to caress each other’s natural assets.
Speaking to Funmilola Adefowope, she disclosed that, I don’t see anything wrong in lesbianism; you get to satisfy yourself the more with your same sex mate. I don’t do it but I can advice anybody to subscribe to the act if they need extra and disease free sexual balance. Asked if she derives satisfaction from her partner, she had this to say, I derive enough satisfaction from my partner, I am not the sex freak type. My partner is cool for me’ she said confidently.
The lady is a very funny, she can advice anybody to subscribe to the act, and I asked her when I stopped recording that, is it good to be a lesbian? She said, there is nothing wrong in choosing to be a lesbian and moreover, some ladies don’t want to get married, they prefer to do the real thingy with their same sex. 
Also speaking on the same issue is Pastor Mrs Iyabo Sonde, she stressed that God does not support such act. She also made references to the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. ‘There are some things that our father in heaven spites a lot. Why would a man and a fellow man have intercourse through their anus? It’s not right, it’s dirty physically and spiritually. There are some things that when you do them, God in heaven refuses to answer your prayers, when you pray as a gay or lesbian and you see response you automatically believe it’s from God but I am saying that, you have indirectly giving access to the devil, he gives you quick and temporary answers, wealth and you use the wealth to attract more preys i.e. gays and lesbians. It’s not right, it’s dirty, it’s not called for, our lord does not support it and it should be retreated against. Why would you involve yourself in an act that by the time you clock sixty, your anus will no longer be firm, you directly commence the use of pampers diapers as a grown up man. It’s not called for at all. It should be keenly ignored.


CROSS CULTURAL PERSPECTIVE OF GAYISM.
Attitudes toward homosexual behaviour have varied with time and place. In ancient Greece, homosexual relations were accepted and, in some cases, expected activity in certain segments of society. Later attitudes toward homosexuality in the Western world were determined largely by prevailing Judeo-Christian moral codes, which treat homosexuality as immoral or sinful.   But like many other sins, homosexual relations were seen as expressions of the weakness inherent in all human beings, and not as a mental disorder or as the behaviour of a specific type of person. This latter view, which regarded homosexuality as a pathology, developed in the late 19th century. By the beginning of the 20th century, psychoanalysts viewed homosexuals as the victims of faulty development. Austrian physician Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, considered homosexuality a deviant condition. More recently, scientists have searched for a biological explanation of sexual orientation. A study published in 1993 sought to identify a genetic marker for sexual orientation. The research, which did not include a cross section of the population, was inconclusive.
During the first half of the 20th century, attitudes toward homosexuality were overwhelmingly negative. Homosexual activities were hidden and spoken of only in whispers, and homosexual behaviour, even among consenting adults, was a criminal offense in most of the United States.
Homosexuals were subject to stereotypes and prejudice. Gay men were viewed as effeminate, lesbians were portrayed as mannish, and both were seen as being obsessed with sex, with little self-control or morality. Homosexuals frequently were thought to be potential child molesters. In the 1930s and during World War II (1939-1945), homosexuals were targets of persecution in Nazi Germany.
Prejudices against homosexuals in Western societies have only recently begun to change. The first major shift followed the publication of two famous reports, Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male (1948) and Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female (1952), by American biologist Alfred Charles Kinsey. Although these works contained inflated estimates of the homosexual population and the incidence of behaviour, they provided a more realistic picture of homosexuality and helped demystify it.
With the recent research and findings, the act has increased in Africa spreading from the major continent of Africa to the countries, the country with the highest numbers of gays is practically Nigeria with a number of 350 individuals who are involved in the act, and this is followed by Ghana and the rest of them. The whole issue ranging from the gayism perspective to the lesbians has grown over time to something else. Many young guys and girls have been introduced into the club and it has become a normal thing in our society today.  You visit the clubs and you virtually see two ladies touching each other closely. They no longer envelop the act again; they prefer to show to the world what they are.
In conclusion, Gayism or lesbianism should be shunned and retreated against violently.




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